Identifying With Families

By Lorena Gonzalez

For a group of immigrants living in Nebraska, self-identity is defined by family.

Last month, during snowy and blistering cold conditions, a leadership workshop was conducted for families of Grand Island, Nebraska. Yes, there are Latinos in Nebraska! These families came to learn how to lead their children to a successful life through a series of leadership workshops.

As I observed the group in action, I heard story after story about love for this country from parents who are willing to work hard in any job to ensure the possibility of a better life for their children. Many work in meat packing plants doing anything to earn a living.  ”I used to be pretty,” said one mother, “but now I work with men, dress like a man, and get paid like men. I don’t mind doing the work as long as I know I can help provide for my family.”

This attitude is prevalent in the stories and dreams of many families.  “I want to do right by this country,” one father said. “I want to follow the laws and give back.  But I don’t want my children to forget where we came from.  I don’t want them to forget that their grandfather and father were sheep herders.  In moments of despair,” he said, “I want my children to remember we worked hard and we dreamed big about a future where our children would have opportunities.”  With tears streaming down his face, he said, “I’m proud of my work in the fields.  It is honest work and demonstrates I am willing to do anything with these two hands for my family.”

Over and over I heard mothers and fathers define themselves by the work they did for their children. In a group activity, parents were asked “what are you good at doing?” I expected to hear them respond with talents such as playing soccer or singing. Without hesitation all but one of the 50-plus participants proudly talked about their job, not only the type of work they were involved in, but the consequence it had on their family.

One father proudly stated, “I am great at construction and using my hands to ensure my kids don’t have to.”  Another father said,  “God has given me a strong back to work hard so I can get my children ahead. I’m not going to let God or my family down.”

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